Hypocrite or Human?

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June 14, 2024

by Mai El Mokadem

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We've all been there. You lecture your friend about the dangers of smoking, only to sneak a puff at a party later. Or you roll your eyes at someone cutting in line, then find yourself doing the same when in a hurry. This internal conflict – where our actions contradict our beliefs is the essence of human duality.

But is it simply hypocrisy, or is there more to it?

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Textbook Hypocrisy: A Double Standard

Hypocrisy, by definition, is the pretense of having beliefs, standards, or moral values that one does not actually hold. It's the politician preaching honesty while caught in a lie. It's the parent yelling at their child for screen time while glued to their phone. It's a clear double standard, a conscious choice to disregard our own principles.

 

The Power of Suggestion and the Susceptible Self

However, human duality is more nuanced. We are all susceptible to the power of suggestion. Social media, with its curated feeds and echo chambers, can reinforce existing biases and make it harder to see different perspectives. We may genuinely believe something at a certain point in time, but external pressures or new information can lead us to change our minds later on,

or even in the same moment. This adaptability is a strength, not hypocrisy, as long as it's accompanied by self-reflection.

 

Are You Fickle or Flexible?

So, are you a hypocrite or someone who can evolve? The key lies in self-awareness.

Do you hold yourself to the same standards you expect from others? Are you open to new information and willing to adapt your beliefs? If so, you're likely not a hypocrite, but someone practicing empathy and critical thinking,

which the world definitely needs more of.

 

Becoming Less Judgmental

Here are some tips:

1. Challenge your own biases: Actively seek out information that contradicts your existing beliefs.

2. Practice perspective-taking: Try to see things from other people's points of view.

3. Focus on understanding, not judgment: Instead of condemning someone,

try to understand the reasons behind their actions and the idea that they could have simply introspected and changed their minds.

 

Science of Duality: The Yin and Yang Within

Neuroscience supports the idea of human duality. Different parts of our brain handle logic and emotion, leading to internal conflicts. These conflicts are a natural part of the decision-making process. The key is to find a balance between reason and emotion.

Human duality is not hypocrisy. It's the complexity of our being, a potion of experiences, emotions and the ever-evolving capacity for change.

By embracing this duality and practicing empathy, we can become less judgmental and navigate the world with greater understanding.