Divorce: A Conversation

 

December 9, 2023

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1 in 4 marriages in Egypt end in divorce.

The divorce rate in Egypt has sky-rocketed by approximately 80% from 1996 to 2017.
The statistics did not come by as a surprise; divorce is in the air.

Experts have agreed and disagreed on an arsenal of possible factors, including the wrong choice of partner, the economic situation, and decreased social stigma around divorce.

Here is our two scents on the latter.

As necessary as it can be, the dissipating taboo around divorce is indeed changing marriage dynamics, sometimes for the worse.
Sociologist Said Sadek reported that high divorce rates bode no good, normal divorce rates, on the other hand, allude that unsuccessful marriages are being put at a halt.

Majority of divorces worldwide are attributed to a lack of commitment, and infidelity, which is quite ironic, given that marriage is founded on commitment, a quintessential scale of love.

Kids grow up being lectured on everything, except for the familiar yet incomprehensible Love, and whether you’re living your happily ever after, or believe that the institution of marriage is doomed, you must be aware that it takes infinite hours of self-reflection, research…etc. to acquire a decent set of communication skills and comprehension, to be able to walk through bits of a relationship.
How many people actually do that? What are the odds of you meeting a partner with notions identical to yours?

Perhaps when ignorance is combined with unrealistic expectations for what a partner must be like and an unhealthy depiction of marriage, communicated through media, commitment goes out the question. Byproducts range from apathy to extramarital affairs.

There is a fine line between healthy but tumultuous, and abusive relationships.
For this reason, as Philippa Perry pointed out, it is often necessary to allow oneself to be changed by their partner, “like two stones rubbing together until they fit”, so long as you are seen.

 

f you are going through a rough patch yourself, be sure to seek support from your in-group and professionals to keep you in check with reality, and potentially save a marriage that is just in need of a little tweaking, or help you exit an utterly impairing one.

Everyone is doing their best with the knowledge they have access to.

 

It is only humane to stay neutral and open to every ending to a marriage, whether it is divorce, or till-death-do-us-apart.